When alone, where else is the best place to find solace but in the comfort of the books that deal with grief and how to deal with it? The writers who wrote these books are people who have dealt with pain firsthand and shared their experiences and how they were able to get over it.
At BetterHelp or other websites, you may find a story similar to yours. There is always a story heavier than what you are going through, but one thing is common between you and the writers is that you are all going through the pain of grieving. Each may have taken a different path, gone through a different process, have different experiences, but you all have precious moments you shared with your loved ones, and you are all now in sorrow after your loss.
- Healing After Loss: Daily Meditations For Working Through Grief is written by Martha Whitmore Hickman who herself suffered terrible loss as well. This book is your daily dose of meditation. The thoughtful words are authentic that it will inspire you, give you comfort, and strengthen you until you find peace. The insights in this book really are a great help!
“We need help getting through the experiences of losing someone (or an animal) we love, life transitions, anxiety about the impending loss of a loved one, or stress because the situation is out of our control.” –Zainab Killidar, LMHC
- I Wasn’t Ready To Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping, and Healing After The Sudden Death Of A Loved One is indeed a book of solace by Brook Noel and Pamela D. Blair, Ph.D. Let the writers hold your hand and walk you through your grief as they tell about how families suffered because of sudden unfathomable loss. How they suffer, endure, and grow from the pain as they rebuild their lives. How others contemplate on suicide in order to get over the shock. The writers also talk about how others misunderstand grieving. I know many can relate to this book because no one is ready to say goodbye to the ones they love. The book supports what Dr. Chantal Gagnon PhD LMHC explanation about suicide. “Not all people who have thoughts of suicide end up acting on those thoughts. But for those who do, generally there is deep emotional pain combined with a belief that things will never improve.”
- Refusing Heaven is a collection of poetry by Jack Gilbert, dedicated to his wife Michiko Nogami, a sculptor, who died after their 11-year marriage. As described by another poet, Dan Albergotti, this is about love, loss, and grief. A moving piece of work as it talks about the life of the poet. Be mesmerized and be intrigued by what the poet meant to say in every line of his poems as he takes you back in time. Poetry is a great way to express love and passion, and effective in healing one’s loneliness and sorrow. It tackles about compassion, understanding, and self-love as well.
- When Bad Things Happen to Good People, a 1981 book written by Harold Kushner who is a known Conservative rabbi. Even spiritual leaders, people anointed by God, question God “why” when faced with affliction. Kushner’s three-year-old son had a degenerative disease and is to live only until his teen years. For a father, no matter how firm your faith is, will be shaken when faced with this situation. He shared his wisdom as a man of God, a reader, a parent, and a human being. Let him make you understand the painful uncertainties life brings and be able to pull out of it inspiringly. You will be amazed at how a single book can create an impact.
- When Things Fall Apart. Simple, yet its straightforward words mirror Pema Chodron’s profound spirituality. She offers ways on how traditional Buddhist wisdom can help transform sufferings into boundless joy no matter what religion or spirituality path you believe in. The book teaches techniques to overcome difficulties and heartaches through spirituality and personal growth. Open your heart to this book and see how deep it can penetrate your sadness and longing and exchange it with blissful joy. In an article of Marjie L. Roddick, MA, NCC, LMHC, she said; “To improve your spiritual health, it can help to create a quiet space for solitude and contemplation or a place of curiosity and playfulness. Maintaining a playful, curious attitude can help you find experiences that offer hope, purpose, and meaning.”
These books recommended when undergoing grief counseling offer hope and ways on finding joy despite your loss. You can discuss the book that captures your interest with a therapist on this website and let him help you evaluate how you feel and how best each story and experiences can help you find your path to healing.